Community Will Get You Through
Breaking up with a partner can feel like stepping onto a rollercoaster you didn’t sign up for except there’s no seatbelt, and the track is missing in places. It’s a big life change that can leave you feeling all kinds of emotions. While every woman’s story is different, there are three feelings that most newly single women share: grief, fear, and loneliness. The good news is that with a little bit of effort, you can turn those feelings into something better (like a brand-new squad of supportive women).
Grief (Mourning the End of a Chapter): Grief is one of the first emotions to hit. It’s like losing a chapter of your life and sometimes a piece of who you are. Maybe you’re mourning the relationship, the idea of “forever,” or even the Friday night pizza routine you had. It’s okay to miss those things.
Fear: What Now? Fear often comes right after grief, like an unwelcome guest at the pity party. Thoughts like, “How am I going to afford rent?” or “Do I have to start using dating apps now?” can keep you up at night. The good news? Fear means you’re growing—and growth leads to some pretty amazing things.
Loneliness: Where’s My Plus-One? Let’s be real: loneliness is tough. After years of shared routines, things can feel pretty empty. Eating dinner alone, weekends without plans, and group chats where half the people “picked a side” can leave you feeling isolated. But loneliness doesn’t have to last forever.
Finding Your People: Building a Community
Going through a breakup is hard, but you don’t have to do it alone. Building a community of other single women can make the journey so much better (and even fun). Here’s some ideas about how to find your squad:
- Create a Meetup Group
Start a group for coffee dates, hiking, or book clubs. It’s a great way to connect with other women who “get it.” You can even join one of the Splithappens Slay the Day Trips! Bonus: you might find your new BFF! - Start a Skill Swap Circle
Everyone’s good at something. Maybe you’re a pro at budgeting, and someone else knows how to fix a leaky faucet. Trade skills, save money, and feel like superheroes while doing it. - Host Monthly Potlucks
Nothing brings people together like food. Host a potluck where everyone brings their favorite dish (or their least-burnt one). No judgment. - Volunteer Together
Helping others feels amazing—and doing it with a group makes it even better. Volunteer at a shelter, food bank, or animal rescue. Who doesn’t want to bond over cute puppies? - Be There for Each Other
Sometimes, all you need is someone who will listen while you rant or cry or laugh until you snort. Being that person for someone else feels pretty great, too.
Breaking up doesn’t mean breaking down. It’s a chance to rebuild and reconnect with yourself and with others. By finding women who are in the same boat, you can create a community where everyone supports, laughs, and lifts each other up. You don’t have to do it alone. Together, we rise stronger—and we might even have a little fun along the way. You’ve got this!
